Posted by on Monday, April 18, 2016
It's been about a year and a half since my last blog post and I'm so excited and a little nervous to get this started again. There have been a lot of changes in my life that required my full-time attention - we had to go back to Toronto for a few months, I went back to school, we moved out of our apartment....and sadly, blogging had to take a back seat for a while. I never stopped thinking about the blog though, and I truly felt a large void - I was missing my creative outlet.
Things are still as busy as ever in my life, but amidst all the chaos I feel like I need to get back to InThisFashion and do something for me. So here I am...back in the game!
Got a lob and I love it!
During my hiatus I did a lot of thinking and reflecting about the blog. So I figured what better way to come back than to share with you guys what I learned from taking this break.
1) It's OK to not have every new trend in my closet.
One of the reasons why I stopped blogging was because I felt so overwhelmed with pressure to buy all the latest trends. Yes, as a fashion blogger, it's important to stay current and incorporate the season's top trends into your looks. But I was getting so caught up (and spending way more money than I should have been) in all the things I "needed" that I felt like no matter what I styled, it just wasn't good enough.
I now realize that the beauty of a creative outlet is expressing your personal style and working with what you already have. Anybody can copy looks straight out of a magazine...What sets you apart is how you make it your own. Honestly, I'm in scrubs 90% of the time anyway, so it just doesn't make sense for me to keep every trend out there. I've been lucky enough to already have quality pieces in my wardrobe and it's on me to make them work!
2) I can't compare myself to the top bloggers out there.
Oh man you guys, this was a really hard one for me. As a person with no professional fashion background and no connections in the "scene", stepping into this world was a scary move. What made it even scarier was seeing how successful so many of these amazing bloggers out there have become. I made the mistake of thinking "these women are already killing the scene - why is anyone going to follow me?"
I learned now though, that I was comparing apples to oranges. The top bloggers out there, who I admire greatly, have been doing this for years and it's not realistic or reasonable for me to be even remotely at their level so early in my blogging career. While I may be a self-proclaimed "science brain", I'm still extremely passionate about fashion and style and that's all the drive I need. What I need to do is stop comparing myself and rather look to them for inspiration and not get discouraged.
3) Always keep your purpose in mind.
This was probably my biggest mistake. When I started InThisFashion, I literally just started. When people would ask me what my goal is or what I wanted to get out of it... I didn't really have an answer. This was a mistake. When you don't have a purpose, it's extremely easy to lose sight of your goals and get derailed off track. I now know whole-heartedly why I'm doing this and that it's my passion. Even if it isn't a full-time thing for me...I realize now that that's OK. What this blog is for me is a creative outlet and how ever I choose to express that is perfectly fine.
4) Have fun with it!!
The whole point of me starting InThisFashion was so that I can have a fun way to allow people into my daily life. It stopped being fun for me though, because I was focusing on the wrong things. And this goes back to my first point - I got caught up in the material and it stopped being fun. I allowed a lot of doubt and negativity to surround InThisFashion...I was overthinking EVERYTHING...and so I knew it was time to take a break. Basically, what I learned is that in order to have fun doing what you love, you need to leave your insecurities at the door. Blogging lends itself to a lot of criticism...you're opening yourself up to strangers, and that can be really scary. So in doing so, you have to be extremely confident in yourself and in your purpose. What helps me with this is my passion and excitement for sharing my personal style. That should trump everything else - striving for excellence but not at the expense of your self esteem.
So no more "Ugh I hate my nose" or "why would anyone want to see these photos" for me. It's time for me to take the leap and put my all into blogging again - but this time with less fear!
Another exciting change: baby boy Links arrives June 2016!
I hope you guys are ready to come on this new and improved journey with me!!
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